Confession: I binged watched the entire second season of The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt one Friday night when Will was out of town, while drinking some of the worst store bought wine I have ever tasted (and my standards are real low), and eating some of the best pancakes I have ever tasted (and my standards are real high). If you don’t think chocolate chip pancakes, $8 sauvignon blanc and ‘it’s funny because it’s true’ comedy go together, then I have just one thing to say to you:
Preach, Titus. Now, I loved the first season of Kimmy Schmidt – it was quirky and fun and too silly to take too seriously. I watched it, enjoyed it, and then pretty much forgot about it until I saw that season 2 was coming to Netflix. Season 2, on the other hand, was its own animal entirely- dark and sad and sweet, complexly funny in a way that volleyed extreme caricatures into real people back into extreme caricatures. I laughed. I didn’t cry, but maybe a little bit on the inside. And most importantly, I learned a few things:
- Happy people value their needs as much as others. These words may have come from an alcohol abusing therapist, but it’s words to live by nonetheless. There are plenty of people in this world who are happy to steal your joy away. You don’t have to let them take it.2. The secret to connecting with people, understanding yourself, and making sense of the world lies in musicals. I’ve actually always known this. But I’m glad Kimmy Schmidt is making sure other people do too.
3. You can forgive someone even if they don’t understand how they hurt you. You can forgive someone even if they don’t say sorry. You can forgive someone even if they aren’t particularly sorry to begin with.
“People make mistakes. Fathers, mothers, people make mistakes. Holding to their own, thinking they’re alone… but they are not alone. Because no one is alone. Just remember, sometimes people leave you, halfway through the woods. Others may deceive you, you decide what’s good. You decide alone, but no one is alone.”
-Into the Woods (#2: case in point).
4. Making fun of hipsters will never get old. But, hipsters will get old. And no one knows what will happen then.
5. Haters gone hate. You’ve just got to shake, shake, shake it off.
Side note: This was one of the most beautiful songs I’ve heard in a while.
6. The feelings you bury have a way of coming back up, and usually in the most unattractive ways …Kimmy’s come in the form of deep burps and smashing her boyfriend in the head with a telephone, mine come in the form of night terrors and too serious anecdotes dropped into the middle of stranger small talk.
7. It’s important to be there for your friends and speak into their lives, but at the end of the day, you have to let people make their own crazy mistakes. Like, say, marrying a gay man on national television. But again, voice your concern.
8. Go on weird dates, they are way better than staring at each other in a restaurant. I can’t even tell you how much fun Will and I would have had on this deserted hotel date.
9. You are not the bad things that have happened to you unless you allow them to be.
10. And finally: people are crazy. But, then again, so are you.
And then of course, there’s just this one lingering question: Do kids today like Cheese Businessman?